A comprehensive programme of Psycho-Emotional-Education
“We’ve tried Relate – but all they did was watch us argue then repeat what we’d said back to us – which got us nowhere, and was a waste of time and money!”
Sadly I’ve heard this, and similar, comments too often. The existing narrowly-focused methods of ‘couples counselling’ can fail to appreciate the complexity of a relationship, and that what works for one couple will leave another couple feeling frustrated and impotent. [Read more…]
Advertisements for weight less programmes are everywhere aren’t they?
It’s a big business – usually offering a ‘quick fix’ to the years of heartache caused by excess weight, and ill-health.
The implicit message in these is ‘loose weight using our method or product(s) and you will be seen as a better person.’
It’s little wonder that so many people regain their lost weight and revert to their former state – including celebrities who have been endorsing the products/scheme/method – because they haven’t unearthed the real reasons underlying their problem!
What really causes obesity? Why is the weight so difficult to shift? [Read more…]
“I feel rubbish about myself, what’s the point even trying to get a job or a girlfriend?
“ Whenever I’m around two or more people I just ‘change’ somehow, and become all dithery and nervous. I’m really self-conscious and I keep imaging they don’t like me and think I don’t deserve to be there. I can’t talk properly and every time I open my mouth and try to say something it comes out all wrong, and I want the ground to open up and swallow me. I feel so stupid and ashamed.”
Such feelings of ‘low self-esteem’ or weak self-concept, or inadequate social skills and social anxiety are common, people just [Read more…]
“As soon as I wake up early in the morning I feel a whoosh of anxiety flood my body – it’s like a central heating boiler firing up, and I can’t shift it – it then stays with me all day, but just not as intensely.”
“I feel squashed under the heavy weight of an invisible opponent. It paralyses me. I can’t think or plan. I can hardly move my body. Everything feels like too much effort and just not worth it anyway.”
“It takes very little to shift me from coping with life to flipping out. I don’t seem to see it coming, or have any control over it when it takes over me – and my anger and rage then only makes things much worse for me.”
If you have a problem [Read more…]
It’s nearly time for our first face-to-face meeting, and I feel both curious and excited.
The room I offer for us to meet and work in is very important – they will be making impressions and judgements of me and the standard of my work from here. I want to avoid any distractions or intrusive noises – sometimes these aspects are under my control and sometimes they’re not.
Some clients can feel a degree of shame about needing psychological and emotional help, and it’s important that their privacy upon arriving and leaving is respected – I’ve never had a ‘waiting room’ arrangement for that reason. (I feel passionate about removing such stigma from therapeutic help and my 12 modules of ‘The Ripple Effect’ Process aim to do that too.) [Read more…]
So, we’ve had an e-mail exchange – and sometimes this is enough to point someone in the right direction of alternative services, when I believe these to be more appropriate to their needs.
If we are to take things further we now need to speak and arrange to meet up. I always prefer to speak directly with the person themselves and not to a friend or relative – however well-meaning they are. Their own voice gives me many more clues, and perhaps questions, about them. [Read more…]
Over the coming weeks I’ll be writing about my ‘Whole Brain And Holistic’ approach to psychological, emotional and physical well-being. I want to share with you how I work in a whole-brain way…with my left-brain gathering facts, information, noticing the details, creating plans and structure; and my right-brained ‘felt sense’ of the client (or group attendee), of my own inner bodily reactions and sensations, imaginings, hunches, intuition, physical boundaries, the bigger-picture and context of the client, and any trans-personal or spiritual aspects that may emerge between us. [Read more…]
