A comprehensive programme of Psycho-Emotional-Education
Have you ever wondered what makes people ‘tick’ and why they behave as they do?
I’ve been curious about this myself for many years now; and it was the confusing or cruel and hurtful behaviours of others towards me that got me interested in psychology, child development, counselling and psychotherapy about 25 years ago.
We all turned up on ‘day one of life’ as pure and innocent beings [Read more…]
When we chose to remain in the dark, and ignorant of what lies outside our own self-imposed dungeon, we rob ourselves of the light and energy that come from new knowledge and wisdom.If we aren’t curious about ourselves what else is there, as intriguing, to be curious about?
Some people focus upon the trivia, gossip and minutiae of life as a way of avoiding looking at themselves; others busy themselves taking care of the needs of others’ whilst ignoring their own needs; others may distract themselves from the pain of enquiry with lots of activities or even substance dependence; and others become engulfed in their own negative thinking patterns and suffocating moods. Where’s the vibrancy, attractiveness or use in any of that?
You are the only person who will never leave you so you might as well learn how to get along and even to like, respect and become best friends with yourself.There is so much that you could unearth about yourself, your past experiences – and more importantly the meanings you have given to these – which have in turn affected your motivation, your choices, and ultimately your level of happiness and success. Self-knowledge is empowering and it should therefore be important enough for you to want to find out more about who you are, and why. We all need the right opportunity for this to happen and to have a sensitive and guiding nudge in the right direction – and Psycho-Emotional-Education provides this.
Many people fear that they may find out something that would rock-the-boat of their comfortable predictable lives – I say “get that boat rocking”! You may only be living out a small part of your full potential.
If you don’t look you’ll never see and you’ll never be all that you could be!
Admittedly your sub-conscious mind set (which I call your SCRIPT – Sub-Conscious Rules Influencing Present Time – in my soon to be published book Into Minds – An introduction to Quantum Psyche Process) is running the show of your life over 90% of the time….doesn’t that intrigue you?
Do other people interest you too? They fascinate me!
Only this weekend I’ve been watching an amazing speech by a charismatic and influential animal rights activist called Gary Yourofsky, and a video called Earthlings. They have both had a profound impact upon me and have brought about significant change and greater awareness in me – despite the horrific subject matter. If we don’t take the risk of letting in the light – with some discernment it has to be said – we cannot become illuminated by the experiences, insight, knowledge and wisdom of those further along the way.
I felt physically sick, furious, and traumatised (see my blog today 10/2/13 on www.maxineharley.com) but I have to admit…..I was also curious. How could someone wilfully inflict terrible pain and suffering on another living being. Why couldn’t I do it? What was so different between me and the abattoir workers? Why would it be physically impossible for me to stamp on a calf’s head, or beat-up a cow, or maim a chicken or piglet? There must be something that makes this behaviour unthinkable to me yet ‘sport’ to someone else. There can only be one answer. The brain. Our brains are shaped by our experiences and beliefs and they can be reshaped by new learning, empathy training, trauma resolution, and regaining the innate human capacity for care, interest in others, respect, compassion and the desire to alleviate another’s suffering, and from simple acts of kindness. But first comes awareness. Awareness of what we do or allow others to do in our name. Awareness of our own power to make changes to the way things are, and to share our powerful knowledge and create a ‘RIPPLE EFFECT’ out into the world. When we clear away the crap from our lives we also change the way our brain, mind and body work. We can then generate a healthy positive ripple out to others, who are in turn affected by this and start to change themselves. It starts with one person – it could, and should, be you!
Please see our website www.the-ripple-effect.co.uk for more information about the eight-week group module called ‘Understanding Yourself’.
Maxine Harley www.maxineharley.com www.the-ripple-effect.co.uk
If you are snowed-in today and stuck indoors alone what are you making of it? Do you see it as a blessing or a curse? Whatever you create ‘out-there’ in your life can only ever be a reflection of what you carry ‘in-here’ – in the deeper levels of your ‘self’.
Will you be bored and looking for someone to ‘relate’ with, albeit virtually by using text or social media? Will you make a Skype call – to avoid being by yourself? Perhaps you will get busy with ‘jobs’ and your ‘to-do’ list; and fill any silence with loud music or the background drone of the television.
What would it be like for you to be alone in silence? Would you welcome it or dread it? Your response to this question is a reflection of your relationship with yourself….and how much you value your own company.
What type of dialogue do you have with yourself? Is it optimistic, upbeat, positive, and self-affirming; or is it the opposite – the type of head-heckling that drains your energy, makes you feel sad, resentful or angry; that spins you around until your thoughts make you dizzy and your body feels sick with it all?
The relationship you have with yourself affects the way in which you relate to everyone else – from your own children to a casual acquaintance….you create your own ‘Ripple Effect’ around you and it starts with you!
Only you can put your head under the water and take on the task of clearing out the debris and rubbish that has been dumped down there….only you can change the ways in which you speak to yourself….only you who can make the changes you want and need….and only you who has the courage to take the steps needed to do this.
Help is at hand…..you don’t have to go delving around in the murky depths of your soul to dredge up everything that ‘lies beneath’….that’s not necessary…..and months or years of therapy might not be necessary either!
The modules of ‘TREP’ offer you a guiding hand…to understanding yourself, to regulating your emotions and moods, to balancing your body chemistry and health, to having better relationships, to being more confident and assertive, to being happier…..to play and have fun – which was your natural state before the rubbish was dumped into your life.
Be your best ‘you’, and send out your best ripples…..reflect out to others your better relationship with yourself – whatever the weather!
Maxine Harley www.maxineharley.com www.the-ripple-effect.co.uk www.qpp.uk.com
