Over the coming weeks I’ll be writing about my ‘Whole Brain And Holistic’ approach to psychological, emotional and physical well-being. I want to share with you how I work in a whole-brain way…with my left-brain gathering facts, information, noticing the details, creating plans and structure; and my right-brained ‘felt sense’ of the client (or group attendee), of my own inner bodily reactions and sensations, imaginings, hunches, intuition, physical boundaries, the bigger-picture and context of the client, and any trans-personal or spiritual aspects that may emerge between us. [Read more…]
What could life be like if it was created and experienced by us in a ‘whole-brain’ way?
Of course we all have a brain, and most of us have a complete or whole one – but it’s how we use it that counts!
We all show a dominance for functioning from a different region of our brain. A few people such as Leonardo de Vinci and Albert Einstein actually operate from a whole-brain perspective and thereby bring about real change and paradigm shifts in the world.
Our more dominant brain regions determine our preferences, values, strengths and weaknesses, how we interpret the world and how we live in it. [Read more…]
I have worked as a psychotherapist with many ‘survivors and thrivers’ of several types of abuse. They tend to see themselves as in some way tainted, soiled and ‘less’ than they could or should be, and somehow of less value than other (non-abused) people. Research shows that abuse and trauma effect the developing brain and result in impaired perceptions, unhelpful thinking patterns, and behaviours that can swing between being too needy for love and reassurance through to a cold rejection of love and attachment – both of which are attempts by the wounded child, who still hides deep inside the psyche, to avoid further pain, confusion, betrayal or exploitation. [Read more…]
Over the last 20 years or so I’ve met too many people who’ve had months or even years of meandering and expensive counselling, and yet they still had their anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, patterns of dysfunctional relationships, and self-abuse.
I’ve also had many clients myself who have wanted to know why they had their own particular problems; and was this ‘normal’ (based upon their own set of circumstances – not that I think there is any such thing as ‘normal’ anyway…instead I would use the term ‘only to be expected’); and what they could do about it: and what a new and better way of behaving and relating to themselves and others might actually be, and feel, like for them. [Read more…]
We all have our own physical, psychological and emotional limits – although some adrenalin-thrill-and-challenge-seekers test and extend theirs regularly. Many people chose to stay safe in their proverbial ‘comfort zone’ to ensure that they are not challenged by any new and potentially growthful experiences.
Self-styled gurus advise us to ‘live without limits’, but in the three-dimensional world we inhabit, along with billions of others, we must surely have respectful limits on our behaviour. [Read more…]
Making the right decision can be a very powerful and life-changing thing to do – a topic I’ve just written about in my blog www.maxineharley.com – but what if you find it difficult to make decisions?
Perhaps you don’t really know yourself well enough to know what would be best for you; maybe you’ve relied on other people telling or directing you to do what they consider is best; maybe you allow your inner head-heckling voice to distract you, or to [Read more…]
I’ve been feeling stressed lately – because I have so much to do to implement my newly acquired business skills and to promote not only ‘The Ripple Effect’ Process but also my new approach to well-being called Quantum Psyche Process. My ‘to-do’ list doesn’t seem to ever get any shorter as new jobs are constantly being added to it. This has made me have to ‘pause’ and focus upon my busy and relentless schedule, and how to manage my time and energy better and hopefully avoid becoming any more grumpy and impatient…not just for my own sake! [Read more…]
Isn’t ‘thwarted’ a lovely Englishy word! It’s defined (in my favourite book – the dictionary) as… ‘To frustrate or foil…to prevent…to oppose successfully’.
Feeling frustrated at being prevented from doing what I want to get on with is a major stressor to me. I was ‘opposed’ by internet hackers this week which prevented me (for a few days) from posting my last blog entries [Read more…]
Margaret Thatcher, a former British prime minister died this week. Responses to this news have ranged from rioting, to celebratory parties, to testimonials of admiration, respect and sadness. Rarely is someone vilified and reviled by many, and yet still held up as a pioneer who brought the ‘great’ back into Britain by breaking the power of the unions to hold the country to ransom.
I have no particular political leanings, [Read more…]
Something happened this week that got me thinking – nothing new so far(!).
Someone criticised the grammar and syntax of a few sentences I’d written, and they used this as a ‘reason’ not to take up a really good business opportunity. I found this odd and intriguing. The ‘errors’ where in fact just different opinions about writing style (my use of commas and the length of some of my sentences – although there was one ‘typo’ in there too). [Read more…]