“As soon as I wake up early in the morning I feel a whoosh of anxiety flood my body – it’s like a central heating boiler firing up, and I can’t shift it – it then stays with me all day, but just not as intensely.”
“I feel squashed under the heavy weight of an invisible opponent. It paralyses me. I can’t think or plan. I can hardly move my body. Everything feels like too much effort and just not worth it anyway.”
“It takes very little to shift me from coping with life to flipping out. I don’t seem to see it coming, or have any control over it when it takes over me – and my anger and rage then only makes things much worse for me.”
If you have a problem with feeling overly anxious; or being prone to very low moods; or seething and then having sudden outbursts of anger; or very changeable moods, then just talking about it for 45-50 minutes a week for months, or even years, probably won’t be enough to help you to change it!
You may need more information, personal insight and understanding into the reasons and causes of your emotional experiences, and most importantly to learn what you can do to regulate and improve your emotional balance.
Working with out-of-sync emotions in a ‘whole-brain and holistic’ way means that we also consider;
Finding out the what, how and when of the problem – how bad does it get? The extent to which it affects and inconveniences the person; how they think, feel and behave when in this state of either hyper or hypo emotionality (hyper=too high=anxious or angry; hypo=too low=depressed); how long they’ve had their problem and whether it’s changed in nature since it first appeared; and what triggers there might be – some of which they may not even be aware of because they are sub-conscious (e.g. an anniversary, loneliness, frustration, loss, fear of humiliation, failure or rejection, feeling unworthy and a ‘fraud’).
What have they done so far to seek help, or to help themselves?
What purpose might their moods also serve either now, or in the past (e.g. to attract sympathy or help, or to keep people away, or to give themselves a victim/martyr identity)?
What structure, order and routine do they have in their life and how does this link to their moods?
What physical symptoms do they have?
Might there be physical reasons for their mood? For instance hormonal or blood-sugar imbalances, toxicity, bacterial imbalances.
How do they hold their body, where is their energy blocked, and how do they stay stuck like this?
What lifestyle and/or dietary changes might they need to make that would have an impact upon their emotional balance?
What natural supplements might they need in the short-term to make up for any deficits?
How might imagery, visualisation and movement (which have proven health benefits) help them?
What information might they need to know about their body chemistry, neurotransmitters, hormones and areas of their brain functioning associated with emotional imbalance?
What areas of their brain are dominant and which may need to become more integrated – so that they can function more from a whole-brain perspective… left and right brain; primitive as well as emotional and thinking brain; the conscious and sub-conscious minds.
Traditional theories – which have informed the many approaches to therapy for several decades – have big gaps in them and can only work with the limited knowledge and perspective they each have. They not only have gaps, they fail to fill in the gaps in their clients’ lives too.
If your counsellor, psychotherapist, coach or other health-care professional isn’t considering and assisting you with an holistic approach to improving all the aspects of you, and your energy, and the context in which you are living, then they are missing a lot of the picture and yet may be convincing you that they are all you need – and they might actually believe this to be true!
I have heard from counsellors who say they ‘provide all their clients need’ – which shows a dangerous arrogance which stems from their naive ignorance.
There is also great benefit to be had from being in a small safe group of people to not only share your personal learning and insights, but to rehearse new ways of relating with one another, and having the opportunity to get useful feedback. This further enhances real changes to the ways in which we process incoming information and sensory stimuli, as well as to how we then decide upon the meaning to give it, and how we can use this to our best advantage.
So, if you need an MOT you’d better find a garage with more than just a tyre pressure gauge; or if you want your house renovated you’d better make sure the contractor has more to use than just a paintbrush. A thorough and comprehensive job requires the full set of tools, and finding out how you can then maintain your car/house or rather your body and mind, all by yourself.
The modules of ‘The Ripple Effect’ Process offer you the ‘full tool-box’ and help you to create your own very best calm and tranquil ripples out into the world.